Monday, February 25, 2013

Since May...

Wow!!!  A lot has changed since my last post on May 19th 2012.
  • We had a Home Study update to change our request for an older child
  • We are officially waiting for a 0-5 yr old boy
  • We are no longer using the name Julani (I'll explain later)
  • We had a HUGE garage sale Fundraiser, raising over $1,400 :)
  • And we are officially in the time frame they gave us, waiting 18-24 months for a referral
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To start, in late November and Early December of 2012 Joseph & I and another couple went to NYC. Joseph had a small conference to attend and the rest of us just played. We LOVE NYC!!!
I was resting in the Hotel Room checking my facebook, while Joseph was out (probably getting me snacks, I'm a muncher,) I received a message from someone who recently "friended" me from the AWAA Ethiopia Facebook group.  Reading:


"... Looks like we are the next two in line for a boy 4+ yrs. ..."

Needless to say this caught me way off guard.  "Next in line?" I had stopped looking at the list just because we hadn't moved in so long. We were only 16 months DTE at the time and the wait was 18-24 months. Not having to wait that long NEVER happens. I was sooooooo excited I started crying, of course.  I told Joseph when he got back to the Hotel and we were both in shock and full of excitement.  Coming back to reality we knew that with the trends in the program there could still be a long wait, and the list on our yahoo group is not official by any means. But it still gave us hope and made the fact that we will most likely be parents in the next year a reality. :)

With the excitement, I went to Gap kids in Boston (after NYC) and bought a pair of pants and 2 pair of socks size 5T, just in case. ;)

As soon as we got home we started to make sure everything was in line to accept a referral when it came. 
  • Painted the room
  • Started looking for a Big Boy bed (twin)
  • I actually created an amazon "Baby Registry" with big boy items 
  • Removed the highchair i thrifted and refinished from the dining room and placed in storage
  • Started researching Reading tools to teach him to read English (luckily my best friend is a Kindergarten Teacher)
  • Had a Huge garage sale to help with the final costs
  • Made plans for people to watch our dogs when we travel etc...
 It is now 3 months later (DTE 19months) and still no referral. This is totally expected but we know that it could be any day.  I am clinging to my phone tightly waiting for that phone call. :) In God's timing!

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We have decided to not use the name Julani any more. The reason for this is, after much research and reading what other adoptive moms have said, when asking an older child that you are adopting if they want to keep their name or want a new name, they usually say they want an "American name."
With us wanting to include the child in their naming process we realized that "Julani" is not an American name, just another African name that we liked.   So we are leaning towards "Eli" which will be short for Elijah, which would have been Julani's middle name anyway.  If our son likes the name Eli, then that will be his "American name." We are sad to leave "Julani" behind but we believe that its meaning "God is my strength" has gotten us through this long adoption process. I think it has served its purpose.

Please continue to be in prayer for us as we wait for the referral of most likely a boy 4-5 yrs old. 
I will try to be a better blogger since things are starting to happen again. It was hard when there was nothing to write about.
Praise God there is now! :)

-Emily