Saturday, May 19, 2012

New Things / Changes...

First I want to say that we have a new fund raiser. To the left of my blog you will see a Just Love Coffee button.  If you buy coffee from this link, a portion of the proceeds will go towards our adoption fund! Who doesn't LOVE coffee?

This week I started reading "Orphanology" by Tony Merida & Rick Morton.  If you follow me on Twitter or read my status on Facebook, you’ve been bombarded with quotes from the book.  Sorry about that… Well, kinda.  Reading this book has rekindled my passion for adoption and has opened my eyes to the priority God places on us taking care of orphans.  I encourage everyone to read it if you get a chance.
Along with this rekindled passion I’ve been on a mission that exceeds adopting Julani, along with any future children we will welcome into our family.  The book stresses the Biblical command for Christians to take care of orphans.

“Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.” - James1:27

The Greek word for visit, “episkeptesthai,” means more than dropping by. It means that we should be personally involved with others and care for them, exercising oversight on their behalf by helping them in their need. It means we should take the role of shepherd in the cause of caring for the helpless (Paraphrased from Orphanology).  Needless to say, I’ve been looking into how our church, Sojourn, can "visit" the orphans.  I’ll talk more about that later.

I’ve also looked into our own adoption to see if there is more we could be doing or if there is anything the Lord is showing us through all of this. After reading adoption stories in the book, my eyes have been opened to options we knew were out there, but seemed too overwhelming or complicated for us at the time we began our adoption process. Examples being: sibling groups, older children, waiting children, special needs children, etc.
Recently, Joseph and I revisited all of these options and the only one that seems suitable for our family, or that we qualified for at least, is to open our age range to 0-5 years.

Adopting older children stereotypically comes with greater complications.  For instance, they are more likely to remember past abuse or abandonment, they struggle with language differences, they are more emotionally distraught, and have slower learning development. But that always depends on the individual child, infants may have the same issues as well.
I thought to myself, “why do I have to have an infant when there are all sorts of children who need parents?”  I realized that wanting a baby was selfish on my part.  When I mentioned this option to Joseph, he said having an infant was never a "must have" for him. Baby things tend to freak him out anyway. 
We asked another adoptive mommy who has adopted older children and she encouraged us to go for it!  She said that she wants me to watch and discuss the Karyn Purvis seminars on child development and connecting with adopted children.  She also said to be prepared but not scared, basically!
We have told our Family Coordinator that we would like to expand our age range and we’ve started taking the necessary steps to do so.  We will need to be approved by our social worker, but I'm praying that we won’t have any problems with that. So, the outcome is not official yet but that’s the current plan.

Please be praying for this change with us. Now we need to be prepared to bring home an infant or a child that is almost in elementary school, which is a major difference.

God's plan not ours!


Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Worst Blogger EVER!

So I have been really bad at blogging lately.  I think because there isn't much more to report.
We are now 9 months DTE which is exciting. The time really is going by quickly.
The current wait time for a referral is still 18-24 months.

We have decided to continue as planned and wait for Julani to be our first child.  Unless God reveals otherwise.

Month 8, I was sewing the next link in the "Wait Chain" and my sewing machine wouldn't stop bunching the thread, so I need to have that fixed so I can sew the last 2 links.  I am also wanting to start making the projects I have in mind for the nursery. (Need my sewing machine to work.)

We recently purchased a dresser at a thrift store for $35 for Julani's room! Love good finds. It was painted brown with blue over spray on the top.  I'm wanting to strip it and stain it! :)

Here is the dresser still in the thrift store. (had to get permission from the hubby)

Please continue to pray that we will have patients and trust in the Lord's perfect timing for our family! :)


Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Skipped a month... & UPDATE!

So,  I completely missed the 7 months post and in 2 more days it will be 8 months of waiting for our Ethiopian infant boy,  Julani! :)

My last post was about a longer wait, well the day before my birthday (March16th) we received another email stating the wait will be even longer and possibly grow. The wait started at 10-14 months moved to 14-18 and is now at 18-24...24 are you kidding me? Ahhh needless to say this caused some emotions and questions in the Turner household. This time is just to receive a referral, not including court date, travel, court and embassy clearance.

The biggest question that we are praying about this week is "Since we want more than one child, do we go ahead and pursue a quicker adoption option while we wait for Julani? Or does God just want us to wait to be parents for longer?"  The timing was good in a sense that Joseph was already taking this week to get away and rest, physically and spiritually, and write.  So we have decided to pray earnestly this week, separately, to keep emotions and influence away, about what to do and at the end of the week we will hopefully make a wise, Godly decision on what to pursue.
So PLEASE be praying this week with us and I will definitely let you know what we have decided to do.


Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Longer wait

Just got word from our agency that the referral wait for an infant boy has moved from 10-16 months to 14-18 months. We knew this was a possibility and probably going to happen, but of coarse hoping it wouldn't.
We are both ok and are really trusting in the Lords timing! He knows when we will be ready and the exact baby for us! We can't wait to see how God will use this time!
Continue to pray that we put our faith and trust in Jesus!!!

Monday, January 23, 2012

6 months Celebration

On January 22, 2012 we celebrated 6 months of waiting for a referral.  This was also my grandfathers 85th birthday! :)
We had church that morning and then afterwards Joseph and I toasted with mimosas. (warm day out)

 Later that day I had time to sew the 6th link in our "Wait Chain."
 Time is going by pretty quickly, which I am grateful for. Hopefully this month I will be motivated to clean out that guestroom!

Love to all,

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Grant Approval

Wow, just as I was filling out my paperwork, I remembered I saw the mail man walk up. So I went to check it and saw a letter from a grant organization we applied for a few months back!
By the grace of God we were approved for an unimaginable amount! I cannot be more grateful right now! Thank you show HOPE for your help!!
Praise Jesus!!!

A Little More Paperwork

Thinking I was done with all that crazy paper work just to receive a reminder that my finger prints expire in March. Meaning, I have to fill out another tiny packet of request for renewal.  When I first saw that there was a renewal guideline packet, I freaked, "Not more paper work!"  But once I got into it I knocked it out in about 20 mins. Now all I need are the hubs signatures then we can mail it off. Just a little reminder of what its taking to get our little man home! SOOO worth it! I can not wait, and of coarse I will do anything to get him home! :)

Thursday, January 12, 2012

5 months celebration

**This is way over due**

As of December 22nd 2011 we have waited 5 months for a referral.  
We took a mini vacation to Boston a few days before Christmas. Love that city!  Since we were there on the 22nd we decided to Celebrate by buying Julani some Celtics gear. We had already purchased ourselves plenty of Celtics gear and were lucky enough to attend a pre season game at the TD Garden! *Huge Celtics fans!!!

CoCo is modeling Julani's new Celtics hat.
I didn't get around to sewing the wait chain link until after the Holidays but here it is. #5, the pattern starts to repeat.  I re worded the "count up," still a little awkward but I think better. :)

**wish I had better handwriting :(**

I am loving that the chain is growing but I hope it doesn't get too big, I am ready to have my son!
The current wait time for a referral is 10-16months, that mean we could be half way through.  Not getting our hopes up and completely leaving it in God's hands. :)

One of my goals for 2012 is to see my boys face. I pray that happens.
And to start putting his room together, I have a lot of stuff that I have purchased but it's just piled and randomly placed in the "Guestroom," that I am ready to turn into the "babies room."

Continually praying for patience and Faith!

I will post a little peak into our Boston trip and Holidays in the next few days!

Love & Blessings to All,

Monday, January 2, 2012

MIA from the Holidays!

Wow, sorry it's a been a while and I totally didn't post our 5 month DTE! I am not doing that quit yet because I haven't taken any pictures, but that will be coming soon.
Just wanted to post a little bit so you didn't think I abandoned this blog!

Welcome 2012!

Much Love,